“It’s a safe place to share what’s going on in our minds,” says Sara Brejt about Jewish Women of Wisdom (JWOW!), a new international organization she helped found for women in their 50s and 60s. After engaging audiences in Lakewood, Monsey, Brooklyn, and the Five Towns, JWOW! is bringing the conversation to Maryland.

Several years ago, Mrs. Brejt, a lawyer, career coach, and teacher at Women’s Institute of Torah (WIT), was listening to an interview about women’s midlife issues on Chazaq Radio. She recognized the speakers, whom she had met at conventions: Miriam Liebermann, author and inspirational speaker, and Faigie Horowitz, Rebbetzin of Agudas Achim in Lawrence, activist, and prolific writer for Jewish publications. Mrs. Brejt contacted them. Around the same age, the three frequently spoke about their challenges and opportunities as midlifers and empty nesters.

My family and I just passed the shloshim of my father, Herbert A. Kelman, MD, a”h. During the shiva, as I shared with friends and family my father’s challenges and life achievements, I also discovered fresh anecdotes of his life from his surviving friends and colleagues. Sadly, not too many of them remain; after all, he was the last of his generation, passing away at the ripe old age of 95! My daughter Naomi shared with us an interview she penned about his life as part of a college course. Upon reading it, I was amazed at how many particulars of my father’s life I had forgotten or had never known, even though I thought I knew all the details of his long life.

While bringing a scoop of ice cream home for a child is a treasured treat, it is pretty universally accepted that two scoops is even better. The same goes for bringing twins home from the hospital – even though parents of twins are often described as overwhelmed, drained, and just plain exhausted. Much is written and discussed about the parents of twins. Perhaps it is time to take a closer look at how the twins themselves feel, specifically, once they are teenagers. Although approximately three percent of the population is born only moments after an older sibling, identical twins are not as common. Less than half of one percent of people might as well be looking in a mirror when they look at their older sibling. As the younger members of two identical sets of twins, we felt it was important to quench the public’s curiosity and bring awareness to those who want the “double scoop” about twins.

The situation described in the letter you printed from Deep in the Hole two issues ago (Dec. 2019 Vol. 35 Issue 5) is indeed “heartrending.” While it might seem impossible to pull this gentleman out of his financial hole, we should thank him for his honest portrayal. His story serves as an excellent cautionary tale for young people.

For the first time in U.S. history, it is believed, the present generation of young adults will not fare as well financially as their parents did. This means that young people need to be especially conscientious about their financial planning as well as about their ideas and values regarding money. (It’s an important topic for shidduchim as well. See sidebar.) We are fortunate to have an organization like Mesila to help those looking for financial guidance. It is precisely because Orthodox families incur additional expenses for food, education, and more that it is incumbent on them to be financially savvy. That includes Jewish educators preparing the next generation to be able to afford the demands of Orthodox living.

When a homeowner engages a contractor to do work on his or her house, there is potential for conflict at many different junctures of the construction process. The purpose of this article is to provide information on the practical and halachic aspects of this relationship so that the parties can foresee and preempt these potential problems. We will also discuss halachic solutions to this type of conflict.

A homeowner who is considering a construction project will typically call a number of contractors for estimates, and will need to make a decision about which contractor to use. The decision may be

Over the past number of decades, klal Yisrael as a whole has grown so much in terms of dikduk (meticulousness) in mitzvos. This is true of so many different halachos: standards of kashrus, shmiras Shabbos, Torah learning – the list goes on. In regard to shmiras halashon, there has also been tremendous headway in awareness of this serious issue. Many people therefore study sefer Chofetz Chaim or one of the many English sefarim about shmiras halashon on a regular basis. Yet many of us continue to struggle with the adherence, in practice, to the halachos of shmiras halashon.

Just recently, I presented some practical applications of hilchos lashon hara to a number of serious yeshiva students. They were a bit shocked 

Chanukah vacation has passed, Purim is far away, and the midyear slump is upon us. This is the time to get into the solid work of life – keeping to a schedule, teaching content, doing homework. All our lofty aspirations from the beginning of the year are taking shape now in the day-to-day reality that is parenting and teaching.

How do we make sure that we keep going in the right direction toward achieving what we hoped for at the beginning of the year? We have all experienced looking back at a decision that turned out poorly and saying, “What was I thinking?” While this column won’t prevent that totally, it may minimize its likelihood. The key to getting to our desired destination when planning a task or activity with our children and students is to ask the question, why?

I was shopping at Seven Mile Market when I bumped into Shlomo Tzvi Baden, who over 20 years ago, when he was a student at Georgia Tech, boarded in my home in Atlanta. He asked me if I would be interested in hosting singles for a Shabbos meal once a month. After filling out a form answering questions on preferences, etc., for his project, Singles on the First (SotF), my husband and I had the privilege of hosting two young women for Shabbos lunch. When recently I asked to host singles again, Mr. Baden said, “I need more people, both singles and hosts, in your neighborhood and others.”

SotF is one of the latest efforts by Baltimore individuals and organizations to focus on singles. Mr. Baden started this project a little over a year ago after reading an article by a divorced woman. She felt frustrated and neglected and asked others to please reach out to to her. Mr. Baden felt that he “had to step up and do something” for all singles. First he contacted several rabbis to ask if anyone was setting up singles for Shabbos meals. Rabbi Daniel Rose, of Congregation B’nai Jacob Shaarei Zion, told him that Steve Schwarz had recently asked him a similar question. Soon, Mr. Baden and Mr. Schwarz started SotF. Although they confer with each other, Mr. Schwarz mainly arranges formal meals several times a year for 10 or more singles, while Mr. Baden sets up singles once a month for Shabbos meals.

SotF’s purpose may be for singles to have a place to eat on Shabbos, but it has a side benefit: When singles meet more people in the community, and their hosts get to know them, magical things might happen, like dating suggestions.

Mt. Everest is one of the world’s most remote spots. To get there from Kathmandu, you have to walk through the Himalayas for days to the remote town of Lukla. Or you can take a turbulent half-hour flight to Lukla, the most dangerous airport in the world. Once you land, it’s a seven- to twelve-day trek to Everest Base Camp at the foot of the great mountain. On Everest itself, the weather is unpredictable with high winds and surprise blizzards. You risk altitude sickness, frostbite, and exhaustion, and you can die from an avalanche or a fall.

You would think people would avoid this place, yet thousands have visited it. Thousands more yearn to go. It is so crowded that there are “traffic jams,” lines of climbers ascending or descending in single file. With no way to pass each other, if you are stuck too long in the “death zone,” you can run out of oxygen and simply collapse. Rescue missions are almost impossible, and those who do not make it will lie frozen in this wasteland forever.

Pinchus Shnier of Baltimore went to Mt. Everest. Here is his story.

With the start of 2020, we have launched on a brand new year – and a brand new decade! May we all have perfect, 20/20 vision this year (if only in the metaphorical sense) to revisit our aspirations and goals. For me, this mid-winter new year has always been a good time to reevaluate and plan for the future. And while long-term goals are great, having several small goals that are easily attainable will start the year off right. Breaking a big goal down into manageable chunks is crucial. And those chunks should be easy to accomplish and have a time limit. The Chofetz Chaim once said that his resolution for the New Year was to bentch from a bentcher from Rosh Hashanah until Chanukah. That was his goal. It was doable and had a time limit.