When I moved back to Baltimore in 2017, after many years in Atlanta, I discovered that I would have to register as a Democrat if I wanted my vote to count. That’s because Maryland is a Democratic-dominated state, and the primary elections, where Democrats compete to determine who will be the candidates, are vitally important for the final election. But as I checked Democrat for the party affiliation on my registration card, I wondered if I should have asked a shailah, because I was a Republican at heart. After researching this article, however, I realize that it’s okay. I registered as a Democrat in order to elect officials who will help our kehilla.

Rabbi Boruch Neuberger, Menahal of Ner Israel Rabbinical College and Board Member of Agudath Israel of Maryland, says, “The reason we have to vote in big numbers is because we need to vote for people who have the ability to advance our community’s needs.” He adds, “The reality is that we live in a ‘blue state.’ But we’re not waving blue or red flags or voting for party platforms. We’re voting for the candidates who are willing to support our chinuch and chesed organizations.” He stresses that we are giving organizations like Agudah Maryland access to elected officials who will be successful advocating for our community.  

I left Minsk, Belarus – blessed be that moment – for America in October of 1992. Afterwards, I visited it twice, in 1994 and 2017, each time leaving the city, my home of 31 years, with the firm intention to never go again. However, in the summer of 2024 I changed my mind and did travel to Minsk. Moreover, seeing Jewish religious life reviving there, regretfully not as quickly and noticeably as it is doing in Moscow, made me want to repeat this pleasant experience.  

What had compelled me to make the trip is a book I have been working on about my late father, Zvi Hirsh Mikhlin, who was a shochet from 1944 to 1973 in Bobruisk, the small town about 100 miles south-west of Minsk where I grew up. I assumed that if I could find some confirmation of this fact – the mention of his name in a publication or any information in a local historical museum – it would be helpful for publishing my book.  

I spent numerous hours in the Main Reading Room of the Library of Congress in Washington DC, trying in vain to find my father’s name in one of the dozen books about Jewish life in the Soviet Union. Surprisingly, my Bobruisk is mentioned in almost every one of these books. It was one of only a few places in postwar Belarus, besides Minsk, of course, where was a functioning synagogue. I was thrilled that at least the fact there was a shochet in the town is proven. My father’s name isn’t mentioned even in a recently published book about Jewish life in Belarus during the final decade of the Stalin regime by Leonid Smilovitsky, a Belarusian-born historian, where many fascinating details about religious life in Bobruisk are uncovered, even the names and addresses of its 75 religious residents.

by Yehuda Avner

Editor’s Note: Fifty-nine years since the Six Day War, the stupendous victory is remembered; the panic and trepidation preceding it largely forgotten. The author, advisor, diplomat, and speech writer to five prime ministers, recalls that fraught time.

Syria’s stratagem to divert the headwaters of the Jordan River, from November 1964 to May 1967, led to a series of border clashes with Syrian forces and continued to menace Israel like a floating mine. By late spring of 1967, the situation had deteriorated so drastically that war correspondents began descending on Israel in droves.

With mounting audacity, provocation followed provocation as Egyptian President Gamal Abdul Nasser made common cause with Syria, moving his vast army and air force into the Sinai, ousting the United Nations peacekeeping forces, blockading Israel’s Red Sea port of Eilat, closing the narrow Straits of Tiran, and signing a war pact with King Hussein that put the Jordanian army under Egyptian command. Other Arab states quickly adhered to the alliance, which Nasser told cheering Egyptians was designed to “totally annihilate the State of Israel once and for all.”

Even before this dire peril, Israel’s mood had been low. The nation was suffering from an unprecedented economic slump that put tens of thousands out of work. Record numbers had left the country, and the macabre joke of the day told of a sign at Lod – now Ben-Gurion Airport – reading, “Will the last one to leave please switch off the lights?”

As enemy forces mobilized in the north, the south, and the east, and mobs in Cairo, Baghdad, and Damascus howled “Death to the Jews!” and “Throw the Jews into the sea!” people spoke with chilling seriousness of the possibility of total physical annihilation.

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The Government Press Office, straining under the weight of processing accreditations to the seemingly endless flow of arriving war correspondents, asked me to pitch in, translating official communiqués and giving pro-forma briefings in my spare time. This was what brought me to the King David Hotel’s coffee shop on the afternoon of 27 May, to keep an appointment with two correspondents, one from the Houston Chronicle, and the other from the London Guardian. They were interested in an overall review and a quick tour of the shattered frontier zone that had sundered Jerusalem’s heart in the battles of the 1948 War of Independence and which, ever since, had been a looming frontline, with East Jerusalem occupied by Jordan.

I often hear a common story when parents call me to discuss a child they are struggling with. They can usually reminisce and think back to fifth or sixth grade, when the relationship was less challenging and more positive. Now the child is in ninth or tenth grade, and the relationship has regressed. It feels distant, complicated, and tense.

When things are difficult, we need to look at our options. We need to take a breath and give ourselves a sense of empowerment. We are better than our child at complex thinking and problem solving, better at compartmentalizing, and better at navigating what it might take to repair the relationship. Our kids, as much as they crave a good relationship – and I promise you they do – don’t have the bandwidth or the tools to piece it back together and lead the way. As parents, we need to embrace the responsibility that we are the ones who can help move the relationship back to a healthier direction.

The typical situation may look familiar. You have a child you are struggling with. They are not getting up in the morning. They are not meeting expectations. They are not helping around the house. They do not get along with siblings. You are fighting with them. Once in a while, you try to talk and it goes well, but then everything blows up again. There may be consequences, threats, and frustration, and the child spends a lot of time alone in their room. It usually turns into a vicious cycle, and nothing seems to consistently help. At that point, we need to slow down and figure out what is going on and how to help.

In the last issue, I wrote about shopping thrift stores for fun and profit. If thrift stores are the Walmart of smart shopping, consignment stores are the Nordstroms and beyond. They often carry a surprising amount of higher-end merchandise. Designer handbags and wallets, well-made shoes, and name-brand clothing show up regularly. These are items people no longer need or want but are still in good condition. It’s common to see labels like Eileen Fisher, Vince, Ferragamo, Gucci, Free People, Burberry, and Cole Haan mixed in with other quality pieces.

The system itself is straightforward. Sellers bring in items that are still new or in excellent condition, and the store decides what to accept. Not everything is taken. Items the store accepts are inspected, steamed if needed, tagged, and placed neatly on the racks. When an item sells, the original owner receives a percentage of the sale, and the shop keeps the rest. The arrangement is clear from the start, and the terms are usually printed on the intake slip.

Most consignment shops focus on either women’s or children’s clothing. Women’s consignment stores often resemble small boutiques, with clean racks, coordinated displays, and a quiet pace. Items are not crowded together, so it’s easy to see what’s on the racks and in the display cases.

As parents, we know that picky eaters are a challenge to feed, especially when we are nervous that they are not getting enough calories and nutrients to fuel their growth and development. If growth is slow or delayed your child’s pediatrician or dietitian may order bloodwork to make sure there are no deficiencies causing the delayed growth. If there is no delay in growth or development, the situation is less urgent, and you have time to discover why the child is picky. There are many reasons, and it is important to evaluate the cause before trying to solve it.

Some children are slow to try new experiences in general. Others may may have had negative experiences with food in the past such as stomach pain, vomiting after eating, or tooth pain from food. If there an ongoing power struggle between the caregiver and child, food can be an additional point of struggle. Or, a child with sensory sensitivity may have a hard time with new tastes, smells, textures, etc. Finally, a child who has difficulty communicating his/her needs in general, may have a hard time expressing food related needs as well.

Even with the vastly different reasons behind picky eating, it is easy to fall into the habit of giving in to a picky child because “at least they are eating.”

It may start without warning. A child who used to be easygoing becomes more irritable. Getting out the door to school turns into a daily struggle. A teacher mentions trouble focusing. Homework that once took 20 minutes now stretches into an hour, often ending in frustration – or tears. Meltdowns and dysregulation become part of the parents’ vocabulary.

If this describes your experience, you are not alone. Health care professionals and parents alike are increasingly alarmed by the rise in mental health and behavior challenges among children and teens. Rates of anxiety, depression, ADHD, behavioral issues, and learning difficulties are climbing at a pace that feels difficult to ignore. Over the past decade, serious mental illness in youth has reportedly doubled. Nearly one in three teens now meets the criteria for an anxiety disorder, and depression diagnoses among adolescents have risen sharply since 2010. At the same time, more children are prescribed psychiatric medications than ever.

Many parents ask, what is going on?

K’ish echad v’lev echad – like one man with one heart. This beautiful metaphor of the Jewish people at Har Sinai truly goes to the heart of the matter because it is the heart that unites and animates many disparate parts. It is essential not only to the life of an individual but also to that of our nation.

Every day, we wake up, we walk, we work. Every night, we smile, we settle, we slumber. And the whole time we are blissfully unaware that our self-contained life-support system is working round the clock. Whether we are running or relaxing, laughing or lounging, the heart is loyally doing its job of bringing our bodies everything they need 24/7. Internal organs, muscles, and cells maintain your body like a giant group project, each fulfilling its unique role in your overall well-being. 

by Yehudis Rothstein*

I am often humbled and inspired by the ways I see “regular” people in our community reaching out to those in need. Because our community so strongly values having and raising children, single men and women and couples who do not have children may be unintentionally delegitimized, left out, or hurt. This article aims to offer Torah-based insights to increase our sensitivity in this area. It seems timely to present these thoughts at this juncture because the period of the counting of the Omer is traditionally a time to work on improving our respect for our fellow Jews. In addition, at this time of uncertain security in Eretz Yisrael, it seems important for us to increase our unity and avoid even unintentionally hurting or marginalizing our fellow Jews.

You may remember that Chana gave birth to and mothered the prophet Shmuel, who anointed King David. I would argue, however, based on the writings of Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller-Gottlieb, that Chana’s most memorable – and most important – accomplishments were her prayers: her jubilant song of praise and thanksgiving, Shiras Chana, and her heartfelt plea. In fact, Chana innovated the silent prayer (Shmuel I 1:13). I think we would all agree that the Shemoneh Esrei is the most important prayer in our davening. In shul, a hush falls over the crowd as each man and woman silently stands before the Creator in prayer. The laws of Shemoneh Esrei, sincere prayer offered in concentrated silence, are derived from Chana (Talmud Brachos 31a). So Chana’s influence lives on in our prayers, three times a day, across the Torah world. (See Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller-Gottlieb’s article in Jewish Women Speak About Jewish Matters, edited by Sarah Tikvah Kornbluth and Doron Kornbluth, Targum, 2000.)  

by Esther Golman

Every parent wants a healthy child. Food is a big part of health, but the question is, what do children need to eat and how do we get them to eat it? Observing what children bring in their lunchboxes shows a wide variety of opinions on the matter. One child brings three different kinds of cookies in little baggies, and another one brings cherry tomatoes and cucumbers. Of course, a lot depends on who is making the lunch and how much time they have. But it also reflects the parents’ beliefs about food, health, and parenting.

Healthy eating is not a black-and-white matter. Not only that, but there are many different opinions about what the best and healthiest foods are. Parents are the ones who make the food decisions and shape their children’s eating habits. Some parents do not pay much attention to healthy eating, and others are very conscientious. If they are convinced that a certain way of eating is right, they can often bring their children along. Of course, the parents must be very determined and stick to their guns.