One of my favorite places to visit is Niagara Falls. The intense rush of water cascading over the Falls is truly overwhelming. Over the years I have visited the Falls numerous times, and have experienced them as many of us have: from in front, from behind, as well as from the boat ride. But nothing prepared me for my recent visit.

My previous trips were all to the Canadian side. It was so exciting to cross the border, and besides, “they” told us that the Canadian side is so much better. But on this recent trip, we decided to stop at the American side. Not only was it less crowded but it is situated in such a way that we could get closer than ever to the water. I stood watching six million cubic feet of water flow each minute from the Niagara River into the gorge, and I was overwhelmed by the imagery as it pertained to a famous statement of Chazal.

Finding a suitable shidduch is difficult for everyone. How much more difficult is it for people who have some kind of health problem?!

Miriam, a young woman who survived an ordeal with cancer, wanted to move on in life and start dating. “I had just finished treatment for an aggressive cancer,” she says, “and was considered cured. But since everything was still quite recent, finding a shidduch seemed very unlikely.” 

In the secular world, couples meet naturally at events, at work, or in school, and the two sides get to know each other before finding out about health problems (or they can see the problems with their own eyes). In the frum dating system, people tend to be names on a piece of paper with lists of references. It is thus very hard or nearly impossible for someone with a genetic, mental, or physical disability to be given a chance. If a prospective shidduch is just a name, why not choose to go out with a person who does not have a known problem?

As part of its ongoing campaign to defile anything and everything holy, the new Israeli government has taken aim at the kashrus status quo that has prevailed unchallenged in the country for almost 40 years. Back in July 1983, in response to numerous instances of bogus and baseless claims of kashrus, the Knesset passed the Law of Kashrut Misrepresentation, which requires the identification or advertisement of food or an eatery as kosher to be backed up by kosher supervision. The law’s small print invests the local rabbinates with the exclusive authority to grant this supervision, and a subsequent amendment enshrines the national rabbinate as the sole arbiter of the kosher status of imported products. The law also created an enforcement division that issues fines and other penalties to offenders.

Food dyes Red #40, Yellow #5 and #6, and Blue #1 are chemicals that most Americans feed their children on a daily basis. They make food look pretty but how certain are we that they are safe?

True, the FDA has concluded, based on long-term animal studies, that these dyes “do not pose significant health risks.” The amount that is “safe” for children has still not been ascertained. And the fact that some dyes have been found to produce tumor growth in animals while others contain small amounts of benzene, a known carcinogen, has not yet shaken the FDA from its conclusion about their “probable safety.”[1]

In our frum world, people are often judged by what is on their heads. But my dad taught me that what’s really important is not what’s on your head but what’s in your head. That wise saying has guided my hashkafa (religious outlook) in life.

I grew up in Shearith Israel, where a boy got his rite of passage upon his bar mitzva: a black hat. You could not get an aliya unless you wore a hat. A tallis over one’s head was frowned upon by this Yekkishe congregation. So my parents took me downtown to Joyce Hat Company, where I purchased my first black hat; it had a short brim and a red feather on the side, and I wore it primarily on Shabbos.

The last three articles that I have written have been about Israeli elections, and I have grown weary of that topic. Fortunately, living in Israel, there are always positive things to write about, and I am going to write about one of them now. We just enjoyed a very successful Shabbat Chayei Sara here in Kiryat Arba/Chevron, with almost 30,000 guests celebrating Abraham’s purchase of Me’arat HaMachpela, and there is no better time for this article than now. (Last year, the whole celebration was cancelled due to Covid-19.)

One final comment: The first 1,100 words of this 1,800-word article are really just a preface to the last 700.

At the heart of the Chanukah story is the Beis Hamikdash. It was here that the persecution of the Jews began under the rule of Antiochus, who ordered that the Beis Hamikdash be desecrated and converted into a place of pagan worship. Mattisyahu, son of Yochanan the Kohen Gadol, fled to the countryside, where he became the father of the Jewish resistance. His sons and followers, the Maccabees, fought bravely against all odds and were aided by Divine Providence to eventually return to Yerushalayim and bring the Beis Hamikdash back to Jewish hands. It is their miraculous victories and efforts to restore the sacrificial service to its earlier glory that we commemorate on the holiday of Chanukah. Let’s explore the connection between the physical structure of the Second Beis Hamikdash and some of the core elements of the Chanukah story.

When my son Ari was in kindergarten the teacher asked the class “what would you like to be when you grow up?” When she called on Ari he said “a fire truck.” Even at age five, Ari knew how to deliver an outrageous line with a straight face. Over the decades he’s honed that skill. Because the year was 1977, the teacher knew that Ari was testing her; therefore, she simply said, “That’s interesting.” Ari, realizing that his teacher was up to the task of teaching him, went on to have an excellent school year.

This Chanukah, as every year, Baltimore will be ablaze not only with the lights of the menorah but also with fond Chanukah memories from across the globe.

A Village in Germany

Mrs. Irma Pretsfelder grew up in a village of only two Jewish families, about 50 miles north of Frankfurt, Germany. She was almost 13 years old, in 1939, when her family fled the country for England. “Our family didn’t make that much of Chanukah,” recalls Mrs. Pretsfelder. “We lit the candles and sang “Moaz Tzur,” but as far as giving gifts, it didn’t happen in our house – there was no Chanukah gelt or gifts. My mother hand-grated her potato latkes and made her own donuts from scratch, with yeast. They were deep fried, unfilled, and dipped in sugar. How we loved them! We didn’t play dreidel; I learned that over here. It also wasn’t the custom to put our menorah in the window. Here I do, because everybody else does. During Hitler’s time, we were afraid of repercussions; we certainly didn’t have it in the window.”

The bulging suitcases are packed with thought of all possible eventualities. Shopping sprees preempt the target date of departure. Shampoo and conditioners, in-style skirts and tops, or favorite type of kippa and belt, that fit the school’s specifications, contact lenses and solutions, deodorants, toothpaste, pictures of the family, linens, Shabbos clothes, hoodies and sweaters that sport the newest insignias – all are stuffed into two pieces of luggage and hand luggage, ready for that long awaited gap year in Israel.

But how much forethought went into preparing the student for his/her new environment? School will now be the new home, but, whereas home is familiar, forgiving, and supportive, school will be foreign and formidable, with no built-in support system.