My husband and I made plans to visit our family’s kevarim, something we actually look forward to each Elul. Mount Moriah is where my paternal grandparents, great-grandparents, and great aunts and uncles are buried. It’s a beautiful place, as cemeteries go, and since it’s close to Newark Airport, we enjoy watching the planes take off and land alongside the freeway where we drive.

The best part is that the cemetery is located an hour or so from Lakewood, which means that we get to spend Shabbos with our precious children and grandchildren. Some of my granddaughters and I have a wonderful tradition which started back when I was a child. In those early childhood years, my father worked long hours and was hardly ever home during the week. In fact, family legend has it that when I was three years old, I didn’t even know who my father was. As the story goes, one day, while my mother was giving me a bath, she named all the people in our family who loved me. When she was up to the second cousins, I stopped and asked her about “that man.” My mother looked at me and said, “What man?” to which I answered innocently, “You know, the man with the glasses who lives here?” My mother incredulously sputtered, “You mean Daddy?”

You run into the store for a gallon of milk and somehow end up with a cart full of groceries. That’s no accident. Stores are designed to make you spend more. From the smell of fresh bread to the way milk is tucked in the back, you are forced to walk past everything else first, picking up “goodies” along the way. But when you understand how the store is designed, you can shop with confidence and keep your grocery bill under control.

Smart grocery shopping does not mean cutting out the foods your family enjoys. It means learning how the store works and making choices that benefit you instead of the marketing team. With simple strategies, you can bring home what you need, skip the extras, and save money.

Two Ways to Start

·         Shop the Outer Loop: The essentials – produce, dairy, bread, and meat – are almost always placed around the edges of the store. Filling most of your cart from these areas keeps you focused on fresh, real foods. It also limits the number of times you pass shelves of packaged snacks that tempt you to overspend.

·         Start with Sales: Instead of planning meals and paying full price for everything, look at what is discounted that week and build from there. If chicken thighs are half off, plan two dinners with them. If apples are on special, add them to snacks and desserts. Letting sales guide your menu automatically lowers your grocery bill.

With Yom Kippur soon approaching, our thoughts turn to the most important fast of the year – and, perhaps, to fasting in general. Although we Jews may be among the few in our secular society to still fast for religious reason, we are not alone in observing religiously mandated fasting. From Ramadan to Lent, in Hinduism and Buddhism, abstaining from food and drink has been a universal practice across cultures and faiths.

What stands out for Judaism’s 25-hour fast on Yom Kippur is the prohibition not just from food but even from water. One might note that in Buddhist practice, only advanced ascetics, under the guidance of an experienced teacher, fast without water for this long. But regardless of the timing or severity, the goal of religious fasting is not punishment but purification: a way to turn inward, reflect on one’s life, and reconnect with G-d. 

In the wake of October 7, pro-Palestinian demonstrations and encampments erupted in universities around the country. They often devolved into antisemitism, where Jewish students were attacked, intimidated, and feared going to class. The Trump administration began an investigation of 60 universities under Title VI of the Civil Rights Act for failing to address antisemitism on campus and failing to protect Jewish students. And in January 2025, President Trump issued an executive order on antisemitism that expanded federal oversight and threatened to withdraw federal grants. While some universities, such as Columbia, Brown, and the University of California, complied with the order, Harvard refused and took the administration to court.

Among the accusations lodged at Harvard by the government were tolerance of antisemitism on campus, consideration of race in admissions, DEI (diversity) training, and allowing transgender athletes to play on teams with players of the opposite gender. Although the Trump administration has gone after many universities and colleges for the same things, Harvard’s $53 billion in endowments and large share of research awards has made it a prime target for Trump.

Days after Harvard commenced litigation against the federal government, Agudath Israel of America issued a statement chiding the school for focusing its energy on fighting Trump rather than combating antisemitism. Agudath Israel thanked the government for its moral clarity and principled stance on the issue, even as Harvard chose to fight the administration wholesale rather than taking steps to reform or rectify the situation. According to the Agudah, “Federal funding will be tied up, research will be halted, and Jewish students will remain less protected as the case wends its way through the courts.” Instead, reforms were needed to make Jewish students feel safe on camp

 Rejection hurts. And particularly in the shidduch world, where emotions mount quickly and expectations run high, a “no” can feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you. It certainly did for “Rachel”:

Last month I was redt a wonderful boy from a great family. He had everything I had been looking for. I’m 26 years old and have been dating for six years. I know what works and what doesn’t; this sounded like it would work, and I was excited. Date after date, everything went well. We had a great flow of small talk and even better deep conversations, and our hashkafos were aligned. After I got home after our seventh date, I felt ready to shift to a new stage. I imagined calling my friends to let them know the happy news, sending out a beautiful vort invite, and picking out a dress for the proposal. Just as I sank into my bed for the night, the shadchan called. The boy had said no. I tearfully hung up, trying to digest the news. He refused to give a reason, insisting that, although I was a very nice girl, he had come to the conclusion that I was not for him.

Dear Rabbi Beren,

I read your article in a recent issue of the WWW about bullying, and to my surprise I actually saw bullying not long after with my own eyes. The problem was that the bullies were two very cute little girls. I am not sure that the word bully can be applied to such cute little kids. I was watching a dynamic that seems to have happened before, but I only witnessed a small part of it. The two girls were giggling and whispering about a third girl in the park and saying things like “Let’s plan against her.” She did not respond; I got the impression that she was used to this. I read in your article about your build-up program, so I tried to use it. I did not know this little girl at all – so I just asked her name and told her that I have the same name. I am not sure if that is called building up. I also told the cute little girl I was with that I was very disappointed that she was being mean, but she did not look impressed. Who would ever have imagined that I would see this right after I read your article! What do you think of how I responded, and what would you advise me to do in such a situation?

Chana

We don’t need a weather man to tell us when a storm is coming. We can simply step outside and see how the air gets heavy with anticipation as the world seems to hold its breath. The clouds darken in warning, and then the sky breaks open. Occasionally, the rain is intense but brief; other times, it is light and long. Either way, it is a gift direct from Hashem, and the clouds are the neatly wrapped packages that hold this gift until delivery.

Clouds of Glory

It was these same clouds – this simple phenomenon of nature – that miraculously formed a protective wall for us during our 40 years in the desert. While Rabbi Akiva said that we lived in mundane, physical booths while traveling through the Sinai before entering the Land of Israel, Rabbi Eliezer explained that klal Yisrael was enveloped in seven layers of Hashem’s ananei hakavod, Clouds of Glory, which shielded us from the broiling sun during the day as we faithfully followed His path. They also leveled the ground, making it easier to walk, and provided protection from predators. Arriving immediately after yitzias Mitzrayim, they represent Hashem’s close relationship with klal Yisrael as one based on miracles.

Chol Hamoed Sukkos is a special time in Baltimore: cooler weather (sometimes), beautiful colors, time to relax and have fun with family and friends. Baltimore is full of fun options, some near, some far, and there is something for every age!

Gaver Farm is one of the most popular Chol Hamoed activities in the Baltimore area. They run a super fun fall festival with slides, games, animals, swings, hayrides, pumpkin picking, corn mazes, and so much more. Gaver also sells delicious apple cider. You can buy it by the gallon or by the cup at their food stand. You’re guaranteed to feel like you’re in Pikesville with all the people from the community who go there. It’s about a 45-minute drive from Pikesville, in Mt. Airy.

Other fall farm fun can be found at Summers Farm in Middletown, MD, and Cherry Crest Adventure Farm in Lancaster, PA.

Turkey Hill Experience, in Columbia, PA, is about an hour away. While the unlimited ice cream (not chalav Yisrael) and juices (parve) are the big draw, there are lots of other activities to make it worthwhile. You can create your own ice cream on a computer, design a label for it, and then make a commercial for it! Learn about different types of tea before trying some right there! A playhouse and slide are fun for the littles. There are many more activities – and to make it even sweeter, CertifiKID has a deal for 30% off! See www.certifikid.com to purchase.

Local playgrounds make for a fun outing. I recommend Blandair Park, in Columbia, about 30 minutes away. There are different areas, which will please many ages, and there are paths for bikes and scooters. Restrooms and water fountains are available. There is plenty of seating and a shaded eating area. Some other recommended playgrounds are Annie’s Playground in Fallston, Angel Park in Perry Hall (next to a library for even more fun!), and playgrounds in the four areas of Centennial Park in Ellicott City.

Baltimore Bais Din

Reviewed by Rabbi Mordechai Shuchatowitz, Head of the Baltimore Bais Din

The tefillah of U’nesaneh Tokef is one of the highlights of the chazaras hashatz (repetition of the tefillah) that the chazan says in the Mussaf of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. We end this tefillah with the statement, “Teshuvah, tefillah, utzedakah maavirin es ro’a hagezeirah” – repentance, prayer, and tzedakah can take away an evil decree. This formula is based on a gemara in Rosh Hashanah (16B), and the fulfillment of these mitzvos is the cornerstone of our avodah (worship) during the period of Elul and Aseres Yemei Teshuva, the Ten Days of Repentance. In this article, we will discuss some fundamentals of tzedakah.

The mitzva of tzedakah is mentioned numerous times in the Torah.[1] It is mentioned as a mitzvas aseh, positive commandment, to support the poor, and is mentioned as a mitzvas lo sa’aseh, a negative commandment, to withhold from supporting the poor. As recorded in the Rambam,[2] this mitzva has different levels in terms of the amount of one’s money that should be given to fulfill this mitzva. One who gives 10 percent of his earnings is considered a benoni, of average generosity. One who gives up to 20 percent of his earnings has fulfilled a mitzva min hamuvchar, in the best way of fulfilling this mitzva. One who gives less than 10 percent of his earnings is considered ayin ra’ah, lacking in generosity.

I moved to Baltimore in 1980 and began giving a parsha shiur every Shabbos to a group of women living in the Park Heights area, between Strathmore and Glen avenues. Sandy Katz was one of the regular attendees. When I became a single parent to four children under the age of seven, the Katzes were brave enough to invite my family for a Shabbos meal. And thus began a very long and fruitful and beautiful friendship.

Having two sons, I was always seeking father (or big brother) figures for gemara tutoring, davening in shul in the men’s section, bar mitzva lessons, etc. I didn’t need to look too far, for Larry Katz immediately stepped in and unassumingly offered to help. While many people had no idea how to be of help to my family, Larry and Sandy were my heaven-sent angels. We had a home away from home, always. My children learned how to play ping pong on motza’ei Shabbos. They were taken to ball games and bike riding paths. Larry even taught one of my daughters how to drive and allowed her to drive his car to the MVA for her driving test. My sons always knew that when they walked in to the Agudah, there was a seat waiting for them next to Larry Katz.