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Navigating the shidduch parsha can 57
be akin to traversing a vast forest in
the dead of night with no torch in
hand. As a result, decisions are
made, often inadvertently, that may
be counterproductive or even
harmful. It is my hope to shed light
on a few areas of concern that have
“presented themselves recently.
by Shlomo Goldberger
hand. After she finished, he said, “I saw you were davening, I
never met a religious stewardess before.” The woman replied,
“Actually, I converted to Judaism,” and she proceeded to tell
Reb Shlomo her story. It was clear that the stewardess was
both deeply sincere and passionate about her commitment to
Yiddishkeit.
The young woman then asked Reb Shlomo if he could
possibly help her with a delicate situation. A friend of hers
had set her up with a nice Jewish man, and after a few
dates it was obvious that they were perfect for each other.
”However, when his parents found out that she was a con-
vert, they forbade their son from seeing her any more.
“Maybe if you give his father a call, you could change his
mind?” she asked.
Reb Shlomo happily obliged, but when he called, the
father immediately responded, “It is not subject to discus-
sion. I have only one son, and being that I went through the
war, I have a responsibility to my family who perished to
carry on the tradition in the best way. This does not include
my son marrying someone who just became Jewish a few
months ago. I don’t know her intentions. I just want my son
to marry a nice Jewish woman from a regular Jewish family
like ours.” Reb Shlomo tried his best to have the father
reconsider, commending the true sincerity of the converted
stewardess, but he was unsuccessful, and it seemed the
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be akin to traversing a vast forest in
the dead of night with no torch in
hand. As a result, decisions are
made, often inadvertently, that may
be counterproductive or even
harmful. It is my hope to shed light
on a few areas of concern that have
“presented themselves recently.
by Shlomo Goldberger
hand. After she finished, he said, “I saw you were davening, I
never met a religious stewardess before.” The woman replied,
“Actually, I converted to Judaism,” and she proceeded to tell
Reb Shlomo her story. It was clear that the stewardess was
both deeply sincere and passionate about her commitment to
Yiddishkeit.
The young woman then asked Reb Shlomo if he could
possibly help her with a delicate situation. A friend of hers
had set her up with a nice Jewish man, and after a few
dates it was obvious that they were perfect for each other.
”However, when his parents found out that she was a con-
vert, they forbade their son from seeing her any more.
“Maybe if you give his father a call, you could change his
mind?” she asked.
Reb Shlomo happily obliged, but when he called, the
father immediately responded, “It is not subject to discus-
sion. I have only one son, and being that I went through the
war, I have a responsibility to my family who perished to
carry on the tradition in the best way. This does not include
my son marrying someone who just became Jewish a few
months ago. I don’t know her intentions. I just want my son
to marry a nice Jewish woman from a regular Jewish family
like ours.” Reb Shlomo tried his best to have the father
reconsider, commending the true sincerity of the converted
stewardess, but he was unsuccessful, and it seemed the
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