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my daughter, found it hard to answer
SHADCHANASKTHE their questions and to describe her in
a complimentary way. I therefore sug-
gested that my daughter call the shad-
chan herself. That way, she could
describe herself and what she is look-
ing for, and I wouldn’t have to worry
about saying the wrong thing. I naively
thought, who better to be an advocate
for her?
The next day I got a phone call from
the shadchan berating me. She said I
should not have had my daughter call
MTo the Shadchan: BY MASHE KATZ her directly. It makes a bad impression,
y older daughter got married a as though my daughter is really weird
There is something a little atypical or comes from a weird family. I was sur-
few years ago. The whole shid- about her. For instance, she doesn’t prised, because the idea seemed to
duch process went very seem to be aware of fashion. (She likes make sense to me. Do you think the
smoothly for all of us. She was to wear hats in the winter, which shadchan was right? Should I change
makes her “different,” silly as that may the way I am handling this situation or
a typical kind of girl. She went sound.) She also tends to be moody just look for a different shadchan?
to a typical seminary in Israel, and emotional. When is it okay for singles to advo-
came back, and started to work and go She is a good, frum girl who fin- cate for themselves? Does it depend on
out. She had lots of friends like herself, ished Bais Yaakov and went to semi- the age of the single or on something
and she wanted a typical type of boy. nary in America. She is now in college else? In our society it seems to be the
My second daughter now wants to studying for a degree in accounting. I job of the parents, but perhaps it can
start dating. She is more of a loner, called a couple of shadchanim and, be done more effectively by the young
C H A N A P E R E L B E N Z A Q U E Nwho does not have a lot of friends. although there is nothing bad about people themselves.
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SHADCHANASKTHE their questions and to describe her in
a complimentary way. I therefore sug-
gested that my daughter call the shad-
chan herself. That way, she could
describe herself and what she is look-
ing for, and I wouldn’t have to worry
about saying the wrong thing. I naively
thought, who better to be an advocate
for her?
The next day I got a phone call from
the shadchan berating me. She said I
should not have had my daughter call
MTo the Shadchan: BY MASHE KATZ her directly. It makes a bad impression,
y older daughter got married a as though my daughter is really weird
There is something a little atypical or comes from a weird family. I was sur-
few years ago. The whole shid- about her. For instance, she doesn’t prised, because the idea seemed to
duch process went very seem to be aware of fashion. (She likes make sense to me. Do you think the
smoothly for all of us. She was to wear hats in the winter, which shadchan was right? Should I change
makes her “different,” silly as that may the way I am handling this situation or
a typical kind of girl. She went sound.) She also tends to be moody just look for a different shadchan?
to a typical seminary in Israel, and emotional. When is it okay for singles to advo-
came back, and started to work and go She is a good, frum girl who fin- cate for themselves? Does it depend on
out. She had lots of friends like herself, ished Bais Yaakov and went to semi- the age of the single or on something
and she wanted a typical type of boy. nary in America. She is now in college else? In our society it seems to be the
My second daughter now wants to studying for a degree in accounting. I job of the parents, but perhaps it can
start dating. She is more of a loner, called a couple of shadchanim and, be done more effectively by the young
C H A N A P E R E L B E N Z A Q U E Nwho does not have a lot of friends. although there is nothing bad about people themselves.
PRONFEOSSWIONAAVLAMIALKAEBUPLAER:TIST
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BZCOSMETICS@GMAIL.COM
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REISTAR7ET0ORW8OSAIRGTDNOSAWN
WalkB-RiInDALHPoARuTIrEsS :
Wednesday LE1S0S/5ONS10-4
Thursday 10/6 10-4
Friday 10/7 10-2
Sunday 10/9 10-4
Thursday 10/13 10-4
Friday 10/14 10-2 ©WWW
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