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AFTER THE FILM do once a week or once every other “I think the schools have to recognize
week? You have to be a little proactive, that much of the middos modeling has
“I have three boys and I think often but I think it is possible.” to be in the school, and the parents
about how to help them become have to realize that if they are not part-
mentschen – not just watch them grow RABBI LAWRENCE ZIFFER ners with the schools in the transmis-
up but actually be an active player in sion of information, it’s not going be
their character building; that’s a diffi- “The funding from the government is successful in the schools, either. We
cult thing to do. Raising kids is a chal- over, but that doesn’t mean that the need to foster more of those partner-
lenge, and we have to teach by exam- project has to end. There are so many ships, more opportunities.”
ple…There’s no shortage of chesed day-to-day things at home that are just
opportunities in the community; you as important – like everyday modeling, RABBI ZIFFER
just have to get your boys interested in rewarding your son for his empathetic
doing chesed. You’ve got to be there; behavior not just his academic More suggestions: Rabbi Ziffer suggest-
you’ve got to take your boys with you achievements, and validating his emo- ed adapting the Boy to Mentsch pro-
and explain to them that this is some- tions. These could go a long way in the gram material for Shabbos table dis-
thing important.” home, even without what we hope is a cussions, and Rabbi Bander said that
more rich community investment.” the rabbananim of the community
RABBI BINYOMIN EDELSTONE should be approached about having it
DANA FLEITMAN taught to chassanim during their chas-
“In Baltimore there are a number of san halacha classes. Another attendee
organizations that would be happy to “We fathers have the ability and the suggested the Boy Scouts as a venue
take these boys as volunteers, but no responsibility to modify our kids’ that would foster good middos. Yet
boy is going to want to do it by him- behavior and to teach them…If they another suggested a monthly Where
self….Make the overture to an organi- see that you really do not practice What When column for spreading
zation and say, ‘I think I can get you what you preach, they‘re not going to awareness. Dr. Bergman suggested
three boys. What can you give them to bite…We should continue this kind of forming a boy-to-man youth movement
conversation and transform it into in our community, focused on chesed
action; we really need to take it seri- and communication with peers and
ously; this is our future.” training work with fathers.
DR. YEHUDA BERGMAN
86 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
week? You have to be a little proactive, that much of the middos modeling has
“I have three boys and I think often but I think it is possible.” to be in the school, and the parents
about how to help them become have to realize that if they are not part-
mentschen – not just watch them grow RABBI LAWRENCE ZIFFER ners with the schools in the transmis-
up but actually be an active player in sion of information, it’s not going be
their character building; that’s a diffi- “The funding from the government is successful in the schools, either. We
cult thing to do. Raising kids is a chal- over, but that doesn’t mean that the need to foster more of those partner-
lenge, and we have to teach by exam- project has to end. There are so many ships, more opportunities.”
ple…There’s no shortage of chesed day-to-day things at home that are just
opportunities in the community; you as important – like everyday modeling, RABBI ZIFFER
just have to get your boys interested in rewarding your son for his empathetic
doing chesed. You’ve got to be there; behavior not just his academic More suggestions: Rabbi Ziffer suggest-
you’ve got to take your boys with you achievements, and validating his emo- ed adapting the Boy to Mentsch pro-
and explain to them that this is some- tions. These could go a long way in the gram material for Shabbos table dis-
thing important.” home, even without what we hope is a cussions, and Rabbi Bander said that
more rich community investment.” the rabbananim of the community
RABBI BINYOMIN EDELSTONE should be approached about having it
DANA FLEITMAN taught to chassanim during their chas-
“In Baltimore there are a number of san halacha classes. Another attendee
organizations that would be happy to “We fathers have the ability and the suggested the Boy Scouts as a venue
take these boys as volunteers, but no responsibility to modify our kids’ that would foster good middos. Yet
boy is going to want to do it by him- behavior and to teach them…If they another suggested a monthly Where
self….Make the overture to an organi- see that you really do not practice What When column for spreading
zation and say, ‘I think I can get you what you preach, they‘re not going to awareness. Dr. Bergman suggested
three boys. What can you give them to bite…We should continue this kind of forming a boy-to-man youth movement
conversation and transform it into in our community, focused on chesed
action; we really need to take it seri- and communication with peers and
ously; this is our future.” training work with fathers.
DR. YEHUDA BERGMAN
86 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
