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SHALOM behavior, and I just nod and then do
BAYIS what I want. However, it upsets my wife
BY AVIVA WEISBORD, PH.D. a lot. Last time they came over, the kids
were a little wild, and my mother criti-
DEAR DR. WEISBORD, rather outspoken, especially my moth- cized our six-year-old. My wife got angry
We are fortunate in having our par- er. I enjoy their conversation and am and told her she had no right to disci-
used to my mother’s opinionated ways. pline our kids. My parents were in
ents living nearby and invite them often I mostly take them with a grain of salt. shock and hurriedly bentched and left.
for Shabbos lunch. My wife is generous She can tell me I shouldn’t allow a It was extremely unpleasant. I don’t
and caring and has always gone along child to do this or that, or criticize their know where to go from here. Do we
with this arrangement. My parents are owe them an apology? Should they
come less often? Should my wife chill
out? Our children are fairly young now,
but how do we explain the situation to
them when they are older? Any tips
would be appreciated.
WANTS FAMILY PEACE AGAIN
DEAR WANTS,
Grandparents are important people
in the lives of grandchildren. They can
offer love and encouragement without
the fears and worries that parents have.
They can be a bit more generous, like
taking the grandchildren out for a treat,
where the parents weigh the pros and
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BAYIS what I want. However, it upsets my wife
BY AVIVA WEISBORD, PH.D. a lot. Last time they came over, the kids
were a little wild, and my mother criti-
DEAR DR. WEISBORD, rather outspoken, especially my moth- cized our six-year-old. My wife got angry
We are fortunate in having our par- er. I enjoy their conversation and am and told her she had no right to disci-
used to my mother’s opinionated ways. pline our kids. My parents were in
ents living nearby and invite them often I mostly take them with a grain of salt. shock and hurriedly bentched and left.
for Shabbos lunch. My wife is generous She can tell me I shouldn’t allow a It was extremely unpleasant. I don’t
and caring and has always gone along child to do this or that, or criticize their know where to go from here. Do we
with this arrangement. My parents are owe them an apology? Should they
come less often? Should my wife chill
out? Our children are fairly young now,
but how do we explain the situation to
them when they are older? Any tips
would be appreciated.
WANTS FAMILY PEACE AGAIN
DEAR WANTS,
Grandparents are important people
in the lives of grandchildren. They can
offer love and encouragement without
the fears and worries that parents have.
They can be a bit more generous, like
taking the grandchildren out for a treat,
where the parents weigh the pros and
54 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
