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Teens and Purim
might say, “Here is an article about the angry, just happy that they called you of teens on Purim. Have your teens tell
effects of drinking on your mind. What when they needed you.
do you think about what it says?” Or, if you where they are going and whom
we are watching TV, we might say, 5) Invite them to come up with rules
“Those kids are making some bad deci- for themselves: Teens need to learn to they will be with. Make sure that they
sions about drinking and drugs. What think for themselves. If they come up
do you think is making them do that? with rules and regulation for their own have a cell phone and remind them
What would be a better way to handle behavior, they are more likely to stick
the situation?” Or if we witness a per- with them. We want to use language that they can call you at any time if they
son’s bad behavior, we might say, that is encouraging and affirms our
“Smoking is a hard habit to break! I am belief that they can make good deci- are in a bind or if they feel at all
glad I never got started!” sions. We can ask them questions like
these: “You know the challenges of uncomfortable. Reiterate the dangers
It is at those times that we can also drinking and drugs. What rules should
ask our teens: “What do your friends be in place for teens like you?” or “How of drinking and driving and that they
say about smoking, drugs, drinking? can parents help kids make good deci-
What plans do you and your friends sions? What do you need from us?” or may never get into a car with someone
have in place if you are put into a diffi- “What guidelines do you think you
cult situation with drinking?” need to help keep yourself safe?” who is not sober.
4) Be your teens’ safety net: Kids More Good Advice Teens need us to be supportive and
need to know that if they find them- Before Purim or any other social event
selves in a sticky situation, they have a where there might be drinking, make loving as they move through these years
way out. It’s important to tell your teens sure to go over the rules that you have
that if they are ever in trouble, they can put in place with your teens. Rabbi towards adulthood. Talking to them in
call you at any time of the day or night. Twerski encourages close supervision
Reassure them that you will not be respectful ways about tough issues and
having rules in place can help.◆
Adina Soclof, MS. CCC-SLP, is the
Director of Parent Outreach for A+
Solutions, facilitating “How to Talk so
Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will
Talk” workshops, as well as workshops
based on “Siblings Without Rivalry.”
Her website is ParentingSimply.com.
This article is reprinted with permis-
sion from the award-winning website,
Aish.com.
Camp Oh Boy! GREAT
FOR THE
For boys going into pre-1A
COUPLES! Mishloach Manos in Israel!
and 1st grade
Send your loved ones a PURIM
• 6027 Woodcrest Ave. 21209 package for hours of FUN!
• Tuesday, June 27-August 22
• Monday-Thursday: 9:45-3:00, FGORGREIRASLTESM!
Friday: 9:45-1:00 www.malkystoystore.com • 02.581.8122 • 732.806.1281
• Early and late stay available
• $85 a week + $25 supply fee “Ththe eMTarnuwckit” h For more information:
• Sibling Special! Send 2 of 917-370-2672
Mr. Rosenberg
your kids and get $80 a week BALTIMORE ONLY
for each! Ner Tamid
For more information or to TUESDAY, March 7
register, call or email:
Rivka Garry: 410-358-0625 11 AM- 7PM
Chaya Yehudis Sax: 410-602-2059
Shira Mencer: 410-363-8439 Come early for best selection
Rachel Garry: rachelgarry1999@gmail.com
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might say, “Here is an article about the angry, just happy that they called you of teens on Purim. Have your teens tell
effects of drinking on your mind. What when they needed you.
do you think about what it says?” Or, if you where they are going and whom
we are watching TV, we might say, 5) Invite them to come up with rules
“Those kids are making some bad deci- for themselves: Teens need to learn to they will be with. Make sure that they
sions about drinking and drugs. What think for themselves. If they come up
do you think is making them do that? with rules and regulation for their own have a cell phone and remind them
What would be a better way to handle behavior, they are more likely to stick
the situation?” Or if we witness a per- with them. We want to use language that they can call you at any time if they
son’s bad behavior, we might say, that is encouraging and affirms our
“Smoking is a hard habit to break! I am belief that they can make good deci- are in a bind or if they feel at all
glad I never got started!” sions. We can ask them questions like
these: “You know the challenges of uncomfortable. Reiterate the dangers
It is at those times that we can also drinking and drugs. What rules should
ask our teens: “What do your friends be in place for teens like you?” or “How of drinking and driving and that they
say about smoking, drugs, drinking? can parents help kids make good deci-
What plans do you and your friends sions? What do you need from us?” or may never get into a car with someone
have in place if you are put into a diffi- “What guidelines do you think you
cult situation with drinking?” need to help keep yourself safe?” who is not sober.
4) Be your teens’ safety net: Kids More Good Advice Teens need us to be supportive and
need to know that if they find them- Before Purim or any other social event
selves in a sticky situation, they have a where there might be drinking, make loving as they move through these years
way out. It’s important to tell your teens sure to go over the rules that you have
that if they are ever in trouble, they can put in place with your teens. Rabbi towards adulthood. Talking to them in
call you at any time of the day or night. Twerski encourages close supervision
Reassure them that you will not be respectful ways about tough issues and
having rules in place can help.◆
Adina Soclof, MS. CCC-SLP, is the
Director of Parent Outreach for A+
Solutions, facilitating “How to Talk so
Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will
Talk” workshops, as well as workshops
based on “Siblings Without Rivalry.”
Her website is ParentingSimply.com.
This article is reprinted with permis-
sion from the award-winning website,
Aish.com.
Camp Oh Boy! GREAT
FOR THE
For boys going into pre-1A
COUPLES! Mishloach Manos in Israel!
and 1st grade
Send your loved ones a PURIM
• 6027 Woodcrest Ave. 21209 package for hours of FUN!
• Tuesday, June 27-August 22
• Monday-Thursday: 9:45-3:00, FGORGREIRASLTESM!
Friday: 9:45-1:00 www.malkystoystore.com • 02.581.8122 • 732.806.1281
• Early and late stay available
• $85 a week + $25 supply fee “Ththe eMTarnuwckit” h For more information:
• Sibling Special! Send 2 of 917-370-2672
Mr. Rosenberg
your kids and get $80 a week BALTIMORE ONLY
for each! Ner Tamid
For more information or to TUESDAY, March 7
register, call or email:
Rivka Garry: 410-358-0625 11 AM- 7PM
Chaya Yehudis Sax: 410-602-2059
Shira Mencer: 410-363-8439 Come early for best selection
Rachel Garry: rachelgarry1999@gmail.com
©WWW
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