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A universal aveilus observance is to watch a Holocaust film? Can a musi- decided that after shloshim we would
refrain from listening to music, espe- cian practice a musical instrument? attend meals with a maximum of two
Can an individual who plays an instru-
cially in public. In addition, we do not ment practice in private? I believe if the couples plus the hosts. When invited, I
musician makes a parnassa from his or
attend a simcha during aveilus or even her music, it would probably be allowed ask how many guests will attend. I try to
on a yahrzeit. If a simcha involves next to play in a band during aveilus to keep
of kin, like a son or daughter, a rav up the parnassa. Can one attend a keep this but there have been times
sports event at Camden Yard where
must be consulted. Particularly thorny music will be played? On this it can per- when I made exceptions.
haps be said that music is not the rea-
is the question of whether a parent in son one is attending the game, so it Can one attend a kiddush on
may(!) be permissible. All these issues Shabbos? I got this answer: In one’s
aveilus can attend a chasana that should be explored with one’s rav, and
occurs during the shiva? Can the moth- he will help decide what is proper. own shul, where they daven regularly, it
er wear makeup? Can she dance? What
My Aveilus Decisions is okay to attend a kiddush. Not
about the aufruf or the Shabbos kallah Here are some of the issues I have attending your in-shul kiddush might
and the sheva brachot? All these are encountered and how I solved them. I signal one’s aveilus which should not
questions for the rav. stress once again that minhagim differ, be done in public on Shabbos.
and each aveil must consult with his or
I once heard of a Baltimore woman her rav. However, going to another shul for a
many years ago who was in aveilus and During shloshim, there are different kiddush is probably not correct. I fol-
was sitting outside the social hall where minhagim regarding how many people low that practice.
at a table you can have dinner with,
the wedding of her daughter was taking even on Shabbos. Some people will not As I am a musician, I have practiced
accept any invitation, even for Shabbos.
place. Rabbi Aron Kotler, zt”l, and After discussion with rabbanim, I once in a while after my shloshim so as
Rabbi Yaakov Ruderman, zt”l, two of not to forget my musical skills. But I do
the greatest Torah giants of our gener-
it in private and not for enjoyment.
ation were at that wedding. A shaila
was asked if the woman, mother of the Can one attend a siyum, seudas
mitzvah, bris or other such function? At
bride, could come into the hall. The the end of shloshim, many people
make a siyum. Does that mean a siyum
shaila was asked to Rav Forschlager, is okay for one to attend? Once again
the great gaon of Baltimore, who said it
was allowed. one’s rav can work out possible solu-
Can one who frequents the cinema tions and recommendations for the
aveil.
Planning a
Simcha?
Chalov Yisroel Dairy Delights For cake, challah, cake platters,
for your Shavuos table. Available herring and dips
at Seven Mile Market and also 443-529-0313
by special order.
©WWW
BBB Distributors, LLC
All products are Yoshon, Pas Yisroel and Chalov Yisroel
under the CRC of Brooklyn and the OK.
DISTRIBUTORS Minimum quantity purchase required.
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refrain from listening to music, espe- cian practice a musical instrument? attend meals with a maximum of two
Can an individual who plays an instru-
cially in public. In addition, we do not ment practice in private? I believe if the couples plus the hosts. When invited, I
musician makes a parnassa from his or
attend a simcha during aveilus or even her music, it would probably be allowed ask how many guests will attend. I try to
on a yahrzeit. If a simcha involves next to play in a band during aveilus to keep
of kin, like a son or daughter, a rav up the parnassa. Can one attend a keep this but there have been times
sports event at Camden Yard where
must be consulted. Particularly thorny music will be played? On this it can per- when I made exceptions.
haps be said that music is not the rea-
is the question of whether a parent in son one is attending the game, so it Can one attend a kiddush on
may(!) be permissible. All these issues Shabbos? I got this answer: In one’s
aveilus can attend a chasana that should be explored with one’s rav, and
occurs during the shiva? Can the moth- he will help decide what is proper. own shul, where they daven regularly, it
er wear makeup? Can she dance? What
My Aveilus Decisions is okay to attend a kiddush. Not
about the aufruf or the Shabbos kallah Here are some of the issues I have attending your in-shul kiddush might
and the sheva brachot? All these are encountered and how I solved them. I signal one’s aveilus which should not
questions for the rav. stress once again that minhagim differ, be done in public on Shabbos.
and each aveil must consult with his or
I once heard of a Baltimore woman her rav. However, going to another shul for a
many years ago who was in aveilus and During shloshim, there are different kiddush is probably not correct. I fol-
was sitting outside the social hall where minhagim regarding how many people low that practice.
at a table you can have dinner with,
the wedding of her daughter was taking even on Shabbos. Some people will not As I am a musician, I have practiced
accept any invitation, even for Shabbos.
place. Rabbi Aron Kotler, zt”l, and After discussion with rabbanim, I once in a while after my shloshim so as
Rabbi Yaakov Ruderman, zt”l, two of not to forget my musical skills. But I do
the greatest Torah giants of our gener-
it in private and not for enjoyment.
ation were at that wedding. A shaila
was asked if the woman, mother of the Can one attend a siyum, seudas
mitzvah, bris or other such function? At
bride, could come into the hall. The the end of shloshim, many people
make a siyum. Does that mean a siyum
shaila was asked to Rav Forschlager, is okay for one to attend? Once again
the great gaon of Baltimore, who said it
was allowed. one’s rav can work out possible solu-
Can one who frequents the cinema tions and recommendations for the
aveil.
Planning a
Simcha?
Chalov Yisroel Dairy Delights For cake, challah, cake platters,
for your Shavuos table. Available herring and dips
at Seven Mile Market and also 443-529-0313
by special order.
©WWW
BBB Distributors, LLC
All products are Yoshon, Pas Yisroel and Chalov Yisroel
under the CRC of Brooklyn and the OK.
DISTRIBUTORS Minimum quantity purchase required.
82 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
