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it has been my motto ever since – ground. Request that he not take the
emphasize the positive, and if you have calls or get involved but just refer the it’s not just a tour...it’s israel!
nothing good to say, don’t say anything. inquirer to his wife or to the references.
You never know if the wrong reply will call now for fall & winter tours!
be a shidduch breaker. After taking these measures, just
concentrate on your most important israelwitharky.com
I agree with you that it is better not job – which is to put your best foot for- 972-52-607-3090
to get your parents or sister involved; ward at all times. If you know you are
that would cause more problems than doing your best, you will be able to take unforgettable@israelwitharky.com
it solves. (The fact that your sister will whatever else comes at you in stride.
not intervene doesn’t mean too much, We know that Hashem is the Master
because perhaps he is not saying any- Shadchan and will send the right one
thing at all.) If you want to speak to at the right time. While you are putting
your brother-in-law, I would go about it a lot of effort into finding out what is
like this: Don’t accuse him of any causing the delay, it could just be that
wrongdoing. Just solicit his help and this is not the right time for you.
ask how he would “sell” you to a per- Hashem tests all of us with nisyonos,
spective shidduch. You will see if he and He decides when and where. We
hems and haws or if he gives you posi- can wonder, surmise, analyze, and
tive feedback. Listen to the way he rationalize – but the bottom line is that
answers and the type of language he nothing will matter when your bashert
uses. Above all, observe the manner in comes along.
which he speaks to you. If it is positive,
then express your feelings to him, I hope I have given you some insight
explaining that you don’t know why you into your dilemma, and may your entire
are not getting any calls. If his manner family – including your brother-in-law –
and speech are negative, ask him if he be mesame’ach you as you walk to the
chupa in the near future.◆
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• Makeup by Chana Perel
708 Sunday 10-5
Benzaquen Monday - Thursday 9-5
• Hair and wig services by Reisterstown
Miriam Addi-Bromberg Road Friday 9-12
Call for evening appts.
• Spa services Please call for an appointment To schedule with Miriam
call 443-812-3222
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