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If the weeks leading up to the Seder 35
are full of stress, tension, and
disharmony, chances are your family
members are not going to be happy
campers when they finally reach the
“Seder table – and neither will you.
by C.B. Lieber
night, the cranky grandchildren who are out of sorts because
they’re not in their own homes, the visiting children-in-law
who are at odds with you or each other. How do we deal with
all this and maintain our sanity, too?
In order to answer these questions, I spoke to three wise
people, Rav Daniel Belsky, Rebbetzin Malka Kaganoff, and
Mrs. Devorah Berson, who graciously granted me time from
their busy schedules to share their insights into how we can
make the Seder night work for ourselves, in our own homes.
”Forget the Drudgery
While most of the Pesach preparations are out of the way by
now, it is important to remember that how we prepare for
Pesach has great bearing on how we sit down to the Seder. If
the weeks leading up to the Seder are full of stress, tension,
and disharmony, chances are your family members are not
going to be happy campers when they finally reach the Seder
table – and neither will you. It’s important to get organized
so that the weeks leading up to the Seder can be calm and
even pleasant. As Rav Belsky, rosh kollel of Kollel Ohalei
Yaakov in Yerushalayim and son-in-law of Rav Nachman
Bulman, zt”l, points out, not only will overdoing Pesach
preparations lead to feelings of inadequacy and place a strain
on your shalom bayis; it will also force you to expend energy
you don’t have on things that are not top priority.
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are full of stress, tension, and
disharmony, chances are your family
members are not going to be happy
campers when they finally reach the
“Seder table – and neither will you.
by C.B. Lieber
night, the cranky grandchildren who are out of sorts because
they’re not in their own homes, the visiting children-in-law
who are at odds with you or each other. How do we deal with
all this and maintain our sanity, too?
In order to answer these questions, I spoke to three wise
people, Rav Daniel Belsky, Rebbetzin Malka Kaganoff, and
Mrs. Devorah Berson, who graciously granted me time from
their busy schedules to share their insights into how we can
make the Seder night work for ourselves, in our own homes.
”Forget the Drudgery
While most of the Pesach preparations are out of the way by
now, it is important to remember that how we prepare for
Pesach has great bearing on how we sit down to the Seder. If
the weeks leading up to the Seder are full of stress, tension,
and disharmony, chances are your family members are not
going to be happy campers when they finally reach the Seder
table – and neither will you. It’s important to get organized
so that the weeks leading up to the Seder can be calm and
even pleasant. As Rav Belsky, rosh kollel of Kollel Ohalei
Yaakov in Yerushalayim and son-in-law of Rav Nachman
Bulman, zt”l, points out, not only will overdoing Pesach
preparations lead to feelings of inadequacy and place a strain
on your shalom bayis; it will also force you to expend energy
you don’t have on things that are not top priority.
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