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low-cost marriage and family therapy to found herself overwhelmed by the less stressed and the extra time can be
community members who need it but financial and parenting responsibilities put to looking for a part-time job. 7)
cannot afford it. While the organization of a household with six children under Finally, is there an address to which
is still in its infant stages, we are ready age 11. The dashing of expectations is readers can send anonymous dona-
to accept requests from potential a difficult, painful experience. She is tions for the benefit of this family? It
clients for these services. Counseling not used to the lifestyle of most frum might give this lady the feeling some-
will cost a maximum of $20 per session families, in which struggle is concealed one cares about her.
and will be offered – with the highest and families make do with little. This is
confidentiality, of course – by a frum not the rule for everyone, but it is for Bottom line: Snowed Under needs
practitioner in the community. I many families. more money. She should assess her
encourage anyone who is emotionally skills and perhaps start a home busi-
and financially in need of this service to Here’s what she can do to reduce ness. Easier said than done, I know.
take advantage of it! the financial tension: 1) Meet personal- But many of the businesses that oper-
ly with her schools’ tuition committees, ate from people’s basements were initi-
Readers can find out more about explain her situation, and negotiate a ated not by entrepreneurial zeal but by
what we do and plan to do at reduction in tuitions. She does not financial necessity. Families are trying
www.knafayim.com. Thanks for helping need her husband for this; she can take to pull themselves up by their boot-
us spread the word! matters into her own hands. 2) She straps. She must strategize how she
should go to Mesila to work out a can bring in more money.
RAFFI BILEK, LCSW-C budget under her limited circum-
stances. At least she will see where she By the way, saying “We can’t afford
TO THE EDITOR, stands and will feel less “snowed it” to children is not harmful in my
In response to Snowed Under in under.” 3) Can Snowed Under ask her experience. I heard nothing but those
or her husband’s parents for financial words to everything I wanted as a child
Summer in the Shalom Bayis column, help? 4) Can her husband take on a in a home with many children and one
there are practical steps this over- second job part time? 5) What about a income. My father did his best. When I
whelmed young mother can take to boarder in their basement? 6) With asked my father as an adult how he
help her situation. school starting soon and a few of the supported a large family on one
children out of the house, she will be income, my father answered, “By the
The mother grew up in a calm,
apparently comfortable home with two (continued on page 138)
children. When she became frum, she
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community members who need it but financial and parenting responsibilities put to looking for a part-time job. 7)
cannot afford it. While the organization of a household with six children under Finally, is there an address to which
is still in its infant stages, we are ready age 11. The dashing of expectations is readers can send anonymous dona-
to accept requests from potential a difficult, painful experience. She is tions for the benefit of this family? It
clients for these services. Counseling not used to the lifestyle of most frum might give this lady the feeling some-
will cost a maximum of $20 per session families, in which struggle is concealed one cares about her.
and will be offered – with the highest and families make do with little. This is
confidentiality, of course – by a frum not the rule for everyone, but it is for Bottom line: Snowed Under needs
practitioner in the community. I many families. more money. She should assess her
encourage anyone who is emotionally skills and perhaps start a home busi-
and financially in need of this service to Here’s what she can do to reduce ness. Easier said than done, I know.
take advantage of it! the financial tension: 1) Meet personal- But many of the businesses that oper-
ly with her schools’ tuition committees, ate from people’s basements were initi-
Readers can find out more about explain her situation, and negotiate a ated not by entrepreneurial zeal but by
what we do and plan to do at reduction in tuitions. She does not financial necessity. Families are trying
www.knafayim.com. Thanks for helping need her husband for this; she can take to pull themselves up by their boot-
us spread the word! matters into her own hands. 2) She straps. She must strategize how she
should go to Mesila to work out a can bring in more money.
RAFFI BILEK, LCSW-C budget under her limited circum-
stances. At least she will see where she By the way, saying “We can’t afford
TO THE EDITOR, stands and will feel less “snowed it” to children is not harmful in my
In response to Snowed Under in under.” 3) Can Snowed Under ask her experience. I heard nothing but those
or her husband’s parents for financial words to everything I wanted as a child
Summer in the Shalom Bayis column, help? 4) Can her husband take on a in a home with many children and one
there are practical steps this over- second job part time? 5) What about a income. My father did his best. When I
whelmed young mother can take to boarder in their basement? 6) With asked my father as an adult how he
help her situation. school starting soon and a few of the supported a large family on one
children out of the house, she will be income, my father answered, “By the
The mother grew up in a calm,
apparently comfortable home with two (continued on page 138)
children. When she became frum, she
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