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CRHESIRLAILIDSIINREGNENT failure. It’s stressful for them when they
can’t read and the rest of the class is
Aby Rochelle Eisenberg feel upset or angry when their child succeeding.”
s parents, we all want what’s best doesn’t do well or is left out. “You may
for our children. We want them become emotional, but you can’t over- To help children with learning differ-
to succeed in school, to learn react, and you shouldn’t always step in ences succeed, Weisbord believes that,
Torah, to have friends and to be and come to the rescue. If they see us as parents and educators, we need to
good people. And when they fail, overreacting, they will grow up and teach these students that they have
we instinctively jump in and try behave in the same way,” says Abrams. value and worth. “Reading doesn’t
to rescue them. define you or define your IQ. Instead of
To help parents raise a resilient focusing on that, let’s provide them
But rescuing them may not always child, SHEMESH will host “The Power with the tools to be successful – be it a
be in their best interests. Failure, of Resilience: Nurturing Inner Strength different approach to learning or learn-
explains Dr. Aviva Weisbord, executive in Our Children and Youth.” The pro- ing in a different setting.”
director of SHEMESH, a program of gram, which features Dr. Robert
The Associated: Jewish Community Brooks, psychologist, Harvard profes- That’s a lesson that can also apply
Federation of Baltimore, may be the sor, and author of Raising Resilient to children without learning differences
“biggest and best teacher.” Children, will be held at the Rosen Arts who fail a math test, have difficulty with
Center at Beth Tfiloh Dahan a Hebrew assignment, or get a C on a
“If we want our children to become Community School, December 5 at report card. “We need to first let them
accomplished, successful adults, we 7:00 p.m. Early registration is recom- understand that it’s okay,” says Abrams,
need to help them understand that fail- mended and can be found on the “that the assignment or test doesn’t
ure is a part of life,” says Rachael SHEMESH website, shemeshbalti- define who they are or what they are
Abrams, outreach specialist at Jewish more.org. capable of accomplishing. It is a chance
Community Services (JCS), an agency for them to recognize they may have to
of The Associated. “No one is perfect. Dr. Brooks will offer practical guid- work harder or seek help in a particu-
What is more important is to teach our ance about fostering resilience and per- lar area. And it’s an opportunity to let
children to accept their flaws and learn severing. He will provide parents with them know that everyone can’t be good
from their failures.” information on how to help children at everything. Talk to them about their
handle failure and deal effectively with strengths.”
According to Mishlei (Proverbs) stress.
24:16, “For a righteous person falls “Tell them, ‘You may have trouble
seven times and arises.” Rav Tzadok of School and Failure with math, but she has trouble with
Lublin (1823-1900, Poland) interprets In our increasingly competitive world, playing ball.’ Stop focusing on what’s
this verse as saying, “Only if a person many parents see success in school as missing,” adds Weisbord.
falls seven times can he or she acquire paramount to their child’s future.
righteousness.” He taught that obsta- Failure is not an option. Yet for some Abrams suggests that parents can
cles were only steppingstones. kids, school doesn’t always come easy. begin that conversation as early as
If we want them to thrive as adults, we three or four. Helping them understand
Failure is a part of life. From not get- must understand that they might fail, that they can learn from an experience
ting the job we want to being bypassed and we must teach them the best ways when they don’t do as well as expected
for a promotion to not being invited to to overcome it. and letting them know you support
a friend’s party. If we want our children them is important to their long-term
to successfully bounce back when they “By the time some kids with learning resilience.”
face adversity, we need to teach them issues are done kindergarten,” says Dr.
to be resilient. Weisbord, “they already feel they are a Abrams recommends that parents
help their children find one or two
It’s not always easy. Parents often things they love and get them involved.
“We can’t determine their passion; they
have to find it themselves. At the same
time, it is a disservice for parents to tell
their child that everything will work out
or they can have whatever they want.
As adults, we know that no one always
gets what they want and situations
don’t always pan out the way that we
want them to.
“If we don’t let them fail as children,”
Abrams concludes, “it will be much
harder when the failure happens on a
larger scale as an adult.”◆
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can’t read and the rest of the class is
Aby Rochelle Eisenberg feel upset or angry when their child succeeding.”
s parents, we all want what’s best doesn’t do well or is left out. “You may
for our children. We want them become emotional, but you can’t over- To help children with learning differ-
to succeed in school, to learn react, and you shouldn’t always step in ences succeed, Weisbord believes that,
Torah, to have friends and to be and come to the rescue. If they see us as parents and educators, we need to
good people. And when they fail, overreacting, they will grow up and teach these students that they have
we instinctively jump in and try behave in the same way,” says Abrams. value and worth. “Reading doesn’t
to rescue them. define you or define your IQ. Instead of
To help parents raise a resilient focusing on that, let’s provide them
But rescuing them may not always child, SHEMESH will host “The Power with the tools to be successful – be it a
be in their best interests. Failure, of Resilience: Nurturing Inner Strength different approach to learning or learn-
explains Dr. Aviva Weisbord, executive in Our Children and Youth.” The pro- ing in a different setting.”
director of SHEMESH, a program of gram, which features Dr. Robert
The Associated: Jewish Community Brooks, psychologist, Harvard profes- That’s a lesson that can also apply
Federation of Baltimore, may be the sor, and author of Raising Resilient to children without learning differences
“biggest and best teacher.” Children, will be held at the Rosen Arts who fail a math test, have difficulty with
Center at Beth Tfiloh Dahan a Hebrew assignment, or get a C on a
“If we want our children to become Community School, December 5 at report card. “We need to first let them
accomplished, successful adults, we 7:00 p.m. Early registration is recom- understand that it’s okay,” says Abrams,
need to help them understand that fail- mended and can be found on the “that the assignment or test doesn’t
ure is a part of life,” says Rachael SHEMESH website, shemeshbalti- define who they are or what they are
Abrams, outreach specialist at Jewish more.org. capable of accomplishing. It is a chance
Community Services (JCS), an agency for them to recognize they may have to
of The Associated. “No one is perfect. Dr. Brooks will offer practical guid- work harder or seek help in a particu-
What is more important is to teach our ance about fostering resilience and per- lar area. And it’s an opportunity to let
children to accept their flaws and learn severing. He will provide parents with them know that everyone can’t be good
from their failures.” information on how to help children at everything. Talk to them about their
handle failure and deal effectively with strengths.”
According to Mishlei (Proverbs) stress.
24:16, “For a righteous person falls “Tell them, ‘You may have trouble
seven times and arises.” Rav Tzadok of School and Failure with math, but she has trouble with
Lublin (1823-1900, Poland) interprets In our increasingly competitive world, playing ball.’ Stop focusing on what’s
this verse as saying, “Only if a person many parents see success in school as missing,” adds Weisbord.
falls seven times can he or she acquire paramount to their child’s future.
righteousness.” He taught that obsta- Failure is not an option. Yet for some Abrams suggests that parents can
cles were only steppingstones. kids, school doesn’t always come easy. begin that conversation as early as
If we want them to thrive as adults, we three or four. Helping them understand
Failure is a part of life. From not get- must understand that they might fail, that they can learn from an experience
ting the job we want to being bypassed and we must teach them the best ways when they don’t do as well as expected
for a promotion to not being invited to to overcome it. and letting them know you support
a friend’s party. If we want our children them is important to their long-term
to successfully bounce back when they “By the time some kids with learning resilience.”
face adversity, we need to teach them issues are done kindergarten,” says Dr.
to be resilient. Weisbord, “they already feel they are a Abrams recommends that parents
help their children find one or two
It’s not always easy. Parents often things they love and get them involved.
“We can’t determine their passion; they
have to find it themselves. At the same
time, it is a disservice for parents to tell
their child that everything will work out
or they can have whatever they want.
As adults, we know that no one always
gets what they want and situations
don’t always pan out the way that we
want them to.
“If we don’t let them fail as children,”
Abrams concludes, “it will be much
harder when the failure happens on a
larger scale as an adult.”◆
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