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◆ Daven for others. Whether they are ◆ Introduce neeww ppeeooppllee aarroouunndd aatt hhuurrttffuull,, tthhee pprrooppeerr rreessppoonnssee iiss ttoo bbrriinngg
sick or hurting you, they can use your lechaims, simchhaass,, sshhuull,, lleeccttuurreess,, eettcc.. HHaasshheemm iinnttoo tthhee ppiiccttuurree.. HHaasshheemm iiss
prayers. Be sensitive to ppeeooppllee bbeeiinngg lleefftt oouutt iinn kkiinndd,, ssoo wwee mmuusstt aacctt wwiitthh kkiinnddnneessssaanndd
◆ Be accepting of ourselves and others, social situationss.. ccoouurrtteessyy.. HHaasshheemm wwaannttss sshhaalloomm,, ssoo wwee
not judgmental. ◆ Bring others iinnttoo yyoouurr ccoonnvveerrssaattiioonnss,, mmuusstt ccrreeaattee aanndd mmaaiinnttaaiinn sshhaalloomm..
◆ Go the extra mile to show a Jew you so they don’t feeell uunnccoommffoorrttaabbllee.. TThhrreeee ssiimmppllee wwoorrddss ccaann rreemmiinndd uuss wwhhaatt
care. ◆ Private phonnee ccaallllss sshhoouulldd bbee ccoonn-- ttoo ddoo:: SSttoopp,, LLooookk,, aanndd LLiisstteenn..
◆ At a shiva house and in cases of sick- ducted in privattee.. ◆◆SSttoopp ttaakkiinngg tthhiinnggss ppeerrssoonnaalllyy..
ness, don’t ask too many questions. You ◆ Watch where yyoouu ppaarrkk.. OOnnllyy uussee oonnee ◆◆SSttoopp aanndd sseeee tthhee ppeerrssoonn iinn ffrroonntt ooff
don’t have to know everything. Be dis- space. In carpoooll,, ppuullll oovveerr ttoo tthhee ssiiddee yyoouu oorr nneexxtt ttoo yyoouu..
creet. of the road andd lleett ppeeooppllee ppaassss.. ◆◆LLooookk iinn yyoouurr ffeelllooww’’ss eeyyeess,, sseeee hhiiss oorr
◆ Say you’re sorry when wrong. ◆ Live one dayy aatt aa ttiimmee.. JJuusstt aass tthhee hheerr ppaaiinn oorr jjooyy,, aanndd bbee wwiitthhtthhiissppeerrssoonn
◆ Be forgiving of others. Give the ben- bad times passs,, tthhee ggoooodd ttiimmeess aallssoo iinn eevveerryy sseennssee..
efit of the doubt. pass. Be mindfuull ooff tthhee mmoommeenntt.. ◆◆LLooookk ffoorrtthheeggooooddtthhaattHHaasshheemmggiivveess
◆ Make a gratitude list. ◆ Do random aaccttss ooff kkiinnddnneessss.. MMaakkee aa uuss aanndd aapppprreecciiaattee HHiiss mmeesssseennggeerrss..
notebook and jjoott ddoowwnn oonnee kkiinndd aacctt aa ◆◆LLooookk ffoorr wwaayyss ttoo eennhhaannccee ootthheerrss’’
Act with Courtesy day. lliivveess..
◆ Put your phone down. Look at peo- ◆◆LLiisstteenn ttoo tthhee ccoonncceerrnnss ooff ffeellloowwJJeewwss..
ple. Pay attention to people, even in a Stop, Look, anndd LLiisstteenn ◆◆LLiisstteenn wwhheenn ssoommeeoonnee iiss ttaallkkiinngg ttoo
store. We’re here on tthhiiss eeaarrtthh aass oobbsseerrvvaanntt yyoouu,, nnoott ttoo ggiivvee aa qquuiicckk aannsswweerr bbuutt ttoo
◆ Smile! Give a friendly greeting. “A Yidden – to perrppeettuuaattee HHaasshheemm’’ss kkiinndd-- hheeaarr wwiitthh yyoouurr ffuulll hheeaarrtt..
smile is a frown turned upside down,” ness and do mmiittzzvvooss,, nnoott ttoo aammaassss
says Rabbi Krohn. money, possesssiioonnss,, aanndd ppoowweerr.. WWee BBoottttoomm LLiinnee
◆ Be attentive to people around you. need to get baacckk ttoo bbaassiiccss:: lleeaarrnniinngg RReemmeemmbbeerr wwhhaatt wwee’’rree hheerree ffoorr.. TThhiiss iiss
Do they need assistance? Open a door, Torah and lovingg oouurr ffeellllooww mmaann.. PPeeooppllee HHaasshheemm’’ss wwoorrlldd,, aanndd oouurr jjoobb iiss ttoo ddoo
carry a package. Invite someone on an are Hashem’s mmeesssseennggeerrss.. EEvveerryytthhiinngg mmiittzzvvooss.. EEvveerryy ggoooodd ddeeeedd hhaass aa rriippppllee
outing. Bring a flower, a meal. they do is becauussee HHaasshheemm wwiillllss iitt ttoo bbee eeffffeecctt,, aanndd aa cchhaannggee iinn oouurrsseellvveess ccaann
◆ Say please and thank you. that way. If sommeeoonnee ddooeess ssoommeetthhiinngg bbrriinngg MMaasshhiiaacchh..◆◆
Kinek continued from page 106 shlepped along the photos and glanced doch genug (that’s enough), you may
attention on what he was doing. at them prior to the interview. They say. Not quite, because in addition to the
brought a smile to his face, and when he hiccupping, there was an overly-talkative
Dispelling Negative Thoughts was interviewed for the job his feelings pre-hospital case who kept screaming
Shmuel Smith was a manager in a radiated outward and caused him to be that the postal staff should be fired.
regarded as a competent person. Then there was a kvetching mother with
car factory. Unfortunately, the firm pro- Therefore, he was hired. Shmuel had her jumping youngster and an alter
duced faulty steering wheels and was successfully dispelled his thoughts. tsuzets zaidy (broken-down old gramps)
being sued by many people. When the making strange noises!
tsoress (troubles) increased, the compa- Maintaining Geduld (Patience)
ny began going in drerd (collapsing) and As we age, our geduld may begin to All this did not bother Shmeryl, and
Shmuel was fired. His reaction was wane. There is therefore a need to prac- he waited with geduld until his moment
twofold. On the one hand, he imagined tice being patient. Shmeryl Hendleman’s arrived. He gingerly handed his postal
taking a long trip to vehr vais (who quest for patience is a good example of receipt to the mail clerk. She then asked
knows where). On the other hand, he such a practice. One morning, Shmerl for a document to prove his identity.
thought of a fabulous vacation taken a went to the post office to claim a pack- Shmeryl searched for his driver’s license
few years ago. He applied for another age that was not delivered. He entered to but, to his utter dismay, it was missing.
position, but his fahrzetsteh (broken) post office and noticed a very long line His pleading hawt nish geholfen (did not
mindset reflected pessimism. Nu, who of people. Now this was not an ordinary help), and he left the post office uttering,
wants to hire a pessimist? line, because there were a series of “situ- “Zie geduldik, zie geduldik – be patient,
ations.” Nu, you may ask, voss hakst do be patient.” Thus, his geduld was main-
The next day, Shmuel found an album ah chinek (why are you blabbering)? So tained, and he returned later to retrieve
with photos of beautiful areas that he and let me explain. his package and all ended well.
his mishpacha had visited. His negative
thinking changed with each page he In the line of people there was a hic- Ah klal (to sum up), we can postpone
turned. He placed some of the photos in cupping yenteh. These were not ordinary the zikna mentality by applying the
an envelope for future reference. hiccups, you understand, rather each above strategies and by maintaining our
hiccup shook the room, so to speak. Iz emuna (faith) that the Ribono Shel
One morning he applied for a posi- Olam will not forsake us.◆
tion at a newly-established firm. He
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sick or hurting you, they can use your lechaims, simchhaass,, sshhuull,, lleeccttuurreess,, eettcc.. HHaasshheemm iinnttoo tthhee ppiiccttuurree.. HHaasshheemm iiss
prayers. Be sensitive to ppeeooppllee bbeeiinngg lleefftt oouutt iinn kkiinndd,, ssoo wwee mmuusstt aacctt wwiitthh kkiinnddnneessssaanndd
◆ Be accepting of ourselves and others, social situationss.. ccoouurrtteessyy.. HHaasshheemm wwaannttss sshhaalloomm,, ssoo wwee
not judgmental. ◆ Bring others iinnttoo yyoouurr ccoonnvveerrssaattiioonnss,, mmuusstt ccrreeaattee aanndd mmaaiinnttaaiinn sshhaalloomm..
◆ Go the extra mile to show a Jew you so they don’t feeell uunnccoommffoorrttaabbllee.. TThhrreeee ssiimmppllee wwoorrddss ccaann rreemmiinndd uuss wwhhaatt
care. ◆ Private phonnee ccaallllss sshhoouulldd bbee ccoonn-- ttoo ddoo:: SSttoopp,, LLooookk,, aanndd LLiisstteenn..
◆ At a shiva house and in cases of sick- ducted in privattee.. ◆◆SSttoopp ttaakkiinngg tthhiinnggss ppeerrssoonnaalllyy..
ness, don’t ask too many questions. You ◆ Watch where yyoouu ppaarrkk.. OOnnllyy uussee oonnee ◆◆SSttoopp aanndd sseeee tthhee ppeerrssoonn iinn ffrroonntt ooff
don’t have to know everything. Be dis- space. In carpoooll,, ppuullll oovveerr ttoo tthhee ssiiddee yyoouu oorr nneexxtt ttoo yyoouu..
creet. of the road andd lleett ppeeooppllee ppaassss.. ◆◆LLooookk iinn yyoouurr ffeelllooww’’ss eeyyeess,, sseeee hhiiss oorr
◆ Say you’re sorry when wrong. ◆ Live one dayy aatt aa ttiimmee.. JJuusstt aass tthhee hheerr ppaaiinn oorr jjooyy,, aanndd bbee wwiitthhtthhiissppeerrssoonn
◆ Be forgiving of others. Give the ben- bad times passs,, tthhee ggoooodd ttiimmeess aallssoo iinn eevveerryy sseennssee..
efit of the doubt. pass. Be mindfuull ooff tthhee mmoommeenntt.. ◆◆LLooookk ffoorrtthheeggooooddtthhaattHHaasshheemmggiivveess
◆ Make a gratitude list. ◆ Do random aaccttss ooff kkiinnddnneessss.. MMaakkee aa uuss aanndd aapppprreecciiaattee HHiiss mmeesssseennggeerrss..
notebook and jjoott ddoowwnn oonnee kkiinndd aacctt aa ◆◆LLooookk ffoorr wwaayyss ttoo eennhhaannccee ootthheerrss’’
Act with Courtesy day. lliivveess..
◆ Put your phone down. Look at peo- ◆◆LLiisstteenn ttoo tthhee ccoonncceerrnnss ooff ffeellloowwJJeewwss..
ple. Pay attention to people, even in a Stop, Look, anndd LLiisstteenn ◆◆LLiisstteenn wwhheenn ssoommeeoonnee iiss ttaallkkiinngg ttoo
store. We’re here on tthhiiss eeaarrtthh aass oobbsseerrvvaanntt yyoouu,, nnoott ttoo ggiivvee aa qquuiicckk aannsswweerr bbuutt ttoo
◆ Smile! Give a friendly greeting. “A Yidden – to perrppeettuuaattee HHaasshheemm’’ss kkiinndd-- hheeaarr wwiitthh yyoouurr ffuulll hheeaarrtt..
smile is a frown turned upside down,” ness and do mmiittzzvvooss,, nnoott ttoo aammaassss
says Rabbi Krohn. money, possesssiioonnss,, aanndd ppoowweerr.. WWee BBoottttoomm LLiinnee
◆ Be attentive to people around you. need to get baacckk ttoo bbaassiiccss:: lleeaarrnniinngg RReemmeemmbbeerr wwhhaatt wwee’’rree hheerree ffoorr.. TThhiiss iiss
Do they need assistance? Open a door, Torah and lovingg oouurr ffeellllooww mmaann.. PPeeooppllee HHaasshheemm’’ss wwoorrlldd,, aanndd oouurr jjoobb iiss ttoo ddoo
carry a package. Invite someone on an are Hashem’s mmeesssseennggeerrss.. EEvveerryytthhiinngg mmiittzzvvooss.. EEvveerryy ggoooodd ddeeeedd hhaass aa rriippppllee
outing. Bring a flower, a meal. they do is becauussee HHaasshheemm wwiillllss iitt ttoo bbee eeffffeecctt,, aanndd aa cchhaannggee iinn oouurrsseellvveess ccaann
◆ Say please and thank you. that way. If sommeeoonnee ddooeess ssoommeetthhiinngg bbrriinngg MMaasshhiiaacchh..◆◆
Kinek continued from page 106 shlepped along the photos and glanced doch genug (that’s enough), you may
attention on what he was doing. at them prior to the interview. They say. Not quite, because in addition to the
brought a smile to his face, and when he hiccupping, there was an overly-talkative
Dispelling Negative Thoughts was interviewed for the job his feelings pre-hospital case who kept screaming
Shmuel Smith was a manager in a radiated outward and caused him to be that the postal staff should be fired.
regarded as a competent person. Then there was a kvetching mother with
car factory. Unfortunately, the firm pro- Therefore, he was hired. Shmuel had her jumping youngster and an alter
duced faulty steering wheels and was successfully dispelled his thoughts. tsuzets zaidy (broken-down old gramps)
being sued by many people. When the making strange noises!
tsoress (troubles) increased, the compa- Maintaining Geduld (Patience)
ny began going in drerd (collapsing) and As we age, our geduld may begin to All this did not bother Shmeryl, and
Shmuel was fired. His reaction was wane. There is therefore a need to prac- he waited with geduld until his moment
twofold. On the one hand, he imagined tice being patient. Shmeryl Hendleman’s arrived. He gingerly handed his postal
taking a long trip to vehr vais (who quest for patience is a good example of receipt to the mail clerk. She then asked
knows where). On the other hand, he such a practice. One morning, Shmerl for a document to prove his identity.
thought of a fabulous vacation taken a went to the post office to claim a pack- Shmeryl searched for his driver’s license
few years ago. He applied for another age that was not delivered. He entered to but, to his utter dismay, it was missing.
position, but his fahrzetsteh (broken) post office and noticed a very long line His pleading hawt nish geholfen (did not
mindset reflected pessimism. Nu, who of people. Now this was not an ordinary help), and he left the post office uttering,
wants to hire a pessimist? line, because there were a series of “situ- “Zie geduldik, zie geduldik – be patient,
ations.” Nu, you may ask, voss hakst do be patient.” Thus, his geduld was main-
The next day, Shmuel found an album ah chinek (why are you blabbering)? So tained, and he returned later to retrieve
with photos of beautiful areas that he and let me explain. his package and all ended well.
his mishpacha had visited. His negative
thinking changed with each page he In the line of people there was a hic- Ah klal (to sum up), we can postpone
turned. He placed some of the photos in cupping yenteh. These were not ordinary the zikna mentality by applying the
an envelope for future reference. hiccups, you understand, rather each above strategies and by maintaining our
hiccup shook the room, so to speak. Iz emuna (faith) that the Ribono Shel
One morning he applied for a posi- Olam will not forsake us.◆
tion at a newly-established firm. He
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