Where What When The Shadchan in You© By WWW The Where What When and Kol Simcha would like to thank the community for its enthusiastic response to our first “Shadchan in You” page. Kol Simcha received numerous calls from people who read the profiles and thought that one of the featured singles might be appropriate for their child, sibling, or friend. All your suggestions were relayed to the profiled singles’ designated shadchanim, and the ideas were followed through accordingly. Won’t it be nice when we can report an engagement that came about because of this page? In the meantime, the community awareness that “The Shadchan is You” is promoting is reason enough for excitement.If you have an idea for any of the singles profiled below, please call Kol Simcha at 410-499-6006. We remind you that tapes of recent lectures and symposia are available for purchase. If you would like to order a tape, be profiled in the next issue of the Where What When, or receive a Kol Simcha questionnaire so that you can be entered into their database, please call the same number. And now, we are pleased to present this month’s featured singles: Alissa* is 25 and 5' 4" tall, and is a full-time graduate student. She is warm, energetic, outgoing, and loves to have fun. She comes from a close-knit traditional family where she is the oldest of four siblings. Alissa spent a year in a seminary in Jerusalem and is committed to lifelong learning and growth. She spends her free time pursuing kiruv opportunities and looks forward to continuing that pursuit while juggling both career and family. Additionally, she hopes to have an open home and welcome many guests to her Shabbos table. She is looking for someone to share this kind of life with her. Alissa’s ideal match would already be pursuing his life mission – whatever that may be. He is a positive, confident, take charge, and selfless person. Yosef* is relatively new to Baltimore. He stands 5' 10" tall and has taken a year off from his professional career to learn Torah full time at our local yeshivos. He is in his mid-thirties and enjoys traveling and meeting new people. Softball and tennis, Shabbos walks, and singing zemiros are just a few of his other passions. Currently, the most important person in Yosef’s life is his 9-year-old child. He would like to marry a levelheaded, easygoing lady who is an upbeat ba’alas chesed with Torah-true values. Together, they will eat healthfully and continue to grow in their Yiddishkeit. Devorah* is 5' 4" and possesses a caring, nurturing personality that quickly puts others at ease. She is 22 years old and a professional in a health-related field. She is a deep thinker with a warm sense of humor whose innate practical side complements her philosophical nature. Devorah enjoys being involved in chesed opportunities, mentoring others in a variety of venues, and physical activities. She would like to meet a thoughtful and thinking young man who is currently learning in yeshiva and aspires to excel in both his learning and yiras Shamayim. His good middos should be matched by his sincere commitment to building a home that is dedicated to contributing to klal Yisrael. *All names are fictitious SIDEBAR Bas Kol There is a beautiful story about a certain chasidic Rebbe. He told a special rebbetzin who lives in Mattersdorf, Yerushalayim, that she and several of her friends should get together to suggest shidduchim to the less fortunate members of the chasidic community – the people everyone tends to forget about, the ones who are a bit slow or shy or socially inept. We all know such people, and he wanted these ladies to sit down and try to help them. So once a month they met, and they would sit together with a list of names and try to match up some of these people. This rebbetzin said to me, “You know, from all our efforts we have not made even one shidduch. But something amazing has been happening. Suddenly, after we started this group, people are getting engaged! We asked the Rebbe, what is going on? And this is what he told us: “‘We all know the midrash that says 40 days before a person is conceived a bas kol (Heavenly voice) calls out, “The daughter of So-and-so will be for So-and-so.” However, many times before the person’s real zivug is called out by the bas kol, the malachim (angels) call out names for the person to marry. For some people, this list is very long; for others, the list is shorter. All the people one is suggested to or goes out with prior to meeting one’s spouse are those names the malachim called out.’” By taking the time to call out names in order to match people up, even if they never end up going out, these women were helping them get through that list of names of the malachim, bringing them one name closer to their real zivug. And this is why, suddenly, after all those years of being single, these people were finally getting married. This is so powerful. And it obligates the rest of us to start trying! We have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Reprinted with permission from Targum Publishers from the book Splitting the Sea by Tamar Ansh. To purchase the book online, go to www.targum.com Copyright © June 2006 Where What When |
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